10 Best Eulogies That Touched Our Hearts [Examples Included] - MemoryCherish (2024)

A. Earl Spencer’s Eulogy for Princess Diana

Earl Spencer delivered one of the best eulogies ever at his sister, Princess Diana’s funeral. His heartfelt words captured her essence and the fond memories they shared, making it a perfect example of a beautiful eulogy:

“I stand before you today, the representative of a family in grief in a country in mourning before a world in shock.

We are all united not only in our desire to pay our respects to Diana but rather in our need to do so.

For such was her extraordinary appeal that the tens of millions of people taking part in this service all over the world via television and radio who never actually met her, feel that they too lost someone close to them in the early hours of Sunday morning. It is a more remarkable tribute to Diana than I can ever hope to offer her today.

Diana was the very essence of compassion, of duty, of style, of beauty. All over the world she was a symbol of selfless humanity. All over the world, a standard bearer for the rights of the truly downtrodden, a very British girl who transcended nationality. Someone with a natural nobility who was classless and who proved in the last year that she needed no royal title to continue to generate her particular brand of magic.

Today is our chance to say thank you for the way you brightened our lives, even though God granted you but half a life. We will all feel cheated always that you were taken from us so young and yet we must learn to be grateful that you came along at all. Only now that you are gone do we truly appreciate what we are now without and we want you to know that life without you is very, very difficult.

We have all despaired at our loss over the past week and only the strength of the message you gave us through your years of giving has afforded us the strength to move forward.

There is a temptation to rush to canonize your memory, there is no need to do so. You stand tall enough as a human being of unique qualities not to need to be seen as a saint. Indeed to sanctify your memory would be to miss out on the very core of your being, your wonderfully mischievous sense of humor with a laugh that bent you double.

Your joy for life transmitted where ever you took your smile and the sparkle in those unforgettable eyes. Your boundless energy which you could barely contain.

But your greatest gift was your intuition and it was a gift you used wisely. This is what underpinned all your other wonderful attributes and if we look to analyze what it was about you that had such a wide appeal we find it in your instinctive feel for what was really important in all our lives.

Without your God-given sensitivity we would be immersed in greater ignorance at the anguish of AIDS and H.I.V. sufferers, the plight of the homeless, the isolation of lepers, the random destruction of landmines.

Diana explained to me once that it was her innermost feelings of suffering that made it possible for her to connect with her constituency of the rejected. And here we come to another truth about her. For all the status, the glamour, the applause, Diana remained throughout a very insecure person at heart, almost childlike in her desire to do good for others so she could release herself from deep feelings of unworthiness of which her eating disorders were merely a symptom.

The world sensed this part of her character and cherished her for her vulnerability whilst admiring her for her honesty.

The last time I saw Diana was on July 1, her birthday in London, when typically she was not taking time to celebrate her special day with friends but was guest of honor at a special charity fund-raising evening. She sparkled of course, but I would rather cherish the days I spent with her in March when she came to visit me and my children in our home in South Africa. I am proud of the fact apart from when she was on display meeting President Mandela we managed to contrive to stop the ever-present paparazzi from getting a single picture of her — that meant a lot to her.

These were days I will always treasure. It was as if we had been transported back to our childhood when we spent such an enormous amount of time together — the two youngest in the family.

Fundamentally she had not changed at all from the big sister who mothered me as a baby, fought with me at school and endured those long train journeys between our parents’ homes with me at weekends.

It is a tribute to her level-headedness and strength that despite the most bizarre-like life imaginable after her childhood, she remained intact, true to herself.

There is no doubt that she was looking for a new direction in her life at this time. She talked endlessly of getting away from England, mainly because of the treatment that she received at the hands of the newspapers. I don’t think she ever understood why her genuinely good intentions were sneered at by the media, why there appeared to be a permanent quest on their behalf to bring her down. It is baffling. My own and only explanation is that genuine goodness is threatening to those at the opposite end of the moral spectrum. It is a point to remember that of all the ironies about Diana, perhaps the greatest was this — a girl given the name of the ancient goddess of hunting was, in the end, the most hunted person of the modern age.

She would want us today to pledge ourselves to protecting her beloved boys William and Harry from a similar fate and I do this here Diana on your behalf. We will not allow them to suffer the anguish that used regularly to drive you to tearful despair.

And beyond that, on behalf of your mother and sisters, I pledge that we, your blood family, will do all we can to continue the imaginative and loving way in which you were steering these two exceptional young men so that their souls are not simply immersed by duty and tradition, but can sing openly as you planned.

We fully respect the heritage into which they have both been born and will always respect and encourage them in their royal role. But we, like you, recognize the need for them to experience as many different aspects of life as possible to arm them spiritually and emotionally for the years ahead. I know you would have expected nothing less from us.

William and Harry, we all cared desperately for you today. We are all chewed up with the sadness at the loss of a woman who was not even our mother. How great your suffering is, we cannot even imagine.

I would like to end by thanking God for the small mercies he has shown us at this dreadful time. For taking Diana at her most beautiful and radiant and when she had joy in her private life. Above all we give thanks for the life of a woman I am so proud to be able to call my sister, the unique, the complex, the extraordinary and irreplaceable Diana whose beauty, both internal and external, will never be extinguished from our minds.”

B. John Cleese’s Eulogy for Graham Chapman

John Cleese‘s eulogy for his Monty Python co-star and close friend, Graham Chapman, showcased his unique sense of humor. The funny eulogy examples in this speech brought laughter amidst the tears during the British memorial service:

“PGraham Chapman, co-author of the ‘Parrot Sketch,’ is no more.

He has ceased to be, bereft of life, he rests in peace, he has kicked the bucket, hopped the twig, bit the dust, snuffed it, breathed his last, and gone to meet the Great Head of Light Entertainment in the sky, and I guess that we’re all thinking how sad it is that a man of such talent, such capability and kindness, of such intelligence should now be so suddenly spirited away at the age of only forty-eight, before he’d achieved many of the things of which he was capable, and before he’d had enough fun.

Well, I feel that I should say, “Nonsense. Good riddance to him, the freeloading bastard! I hope he fries. ”

And the reason I think I should say this is, he would never forgive me if I didn’t, if I threw away this opportunity to shock you all on his behalf. Anything for him but mindless good taste. I could hear him whispering in my ear last night as I was writing this:

“Alright, Cleese, you’re very proud of being the first person to ever say ‘sh**’ on television. If this service is really for me, just for starters, I want you to be the first person ever at a British memorial service to say ‘f***’!”

You see, the trouble is, I can’t. If he were here with me now I would probably have the courage, because he always emboldened me. But the truth is, I lack his balls, his splendid defiance. And so I’ll have to content myself instead with saying ‘Betty Mardsen…’

But bolder and less inhibited spirits than me follow today. Jones and Idle, Gilliam and Palin. Heaven knows what the next hour will bring in Graham’s name. Trousers dropping, blasphemers on pogo sticks, spectacular displays of high-speed farting, synchronized incest. One of the four is planning to stuff a dead ocelot and a 1922 Remington typewriter up his own arse to the sound of the second movement of Elgar’s cello concerto. And that’s in the first half.

Because you see, Gray would have wanted it this way. Really. Anything for him but mindless good taste. And that’s what I’ll always remember about him—apart, of course, from his Olympian extravagance. He was the prince of bad taste. He loved to shock. In fact, Gray, more than anyone I knew, embodied and symbolised all that was most offensive and juvenile in Monty Python. And his delight in shocking people led him on to greater and greater feats. I like to think of him as the pioneering beacon that beat the path along which fainter spirits could follow.

Some memories. I remember writing the undertaker speech with him, and him suggesting the punch line, ‘All right, we’ll eat her, but if you feel bad about it afterwards, we’ll dig a grave and you can throw up into it.’ I remember discovering in 1969, when we wrote every day at the flat where Connie Booth and I lived, that he’d recently discovered the game of printing four-letter words on neat little squares of paper, and then quietly placing them at strategic points around our flat, forcing Connie and me into frantic last minute paper chases whenever we were expecting important guests.

I remember him at BBC parties crawling around on all fours, rubbing himself affectionately against the legs of gray-suited executives, and delicately nibbling the more appetizing female calves. Mrs. Eric Morecambe remembers that too.

I remember his being invited to speak at the Oxford union, and entering the chamber dressed as a carrot—a full length orange tapering costume with a large, bright green sprig as a hat—-and then, when his turn came to speak, refusing to do so. He just stood there, literally speechless, for twenty minutes, smiling beatifically. The only time in world history that a totally silent man has succeeded in inciting a riot.

I remember Graham receiving a Sun newspaper TV award from Reggie Maudling. Who else! And taking the trophy falling to the ground and crawling all the way back to his table, screaming loudly, as loudly as he could. And if you remember Gray, that was very loud indeed.

It is magnificent, isn’t it? You see, the thing about shock… is not that it upsets some people, I think; I think that it gives others a momentary joy of liberation, as we realised in that instant that the social rules that constrict our lives so terribly are not actually very important.

Well, Gray can’t do that for us anymore. He’s gone. He is an ex-Chapman. All we have of him now is our memories. But it will be some time before they fade.”

C. Oprah Winfrey’s Eulogy for Rosa Parks

Oprah Winfrey’s tribute to civil rights icon Rosa Parks was an inspiring and emotional eulogy that highlighted Parks’ courage and impact on the world. This famous eulogy left a lasting impression on those who heard it:

“To Reverend Braxton, family, friends, admirers, and this amazing choir:

I — I feel it an honor to be here to come and say a final goodbye.

I grew up in the South, and Rosa Parks was a hero to me long before I recognized and understood the power and impact that her life embodied. I remember my father telling me about this colored woman who had refused to give up her seat. And in my child’s mind, I thought, “She must be really big.” I thought she must be at least a hundred feet tall. I imagined her being stalwart and strong and carrying a shield to hold back the white folks.

And then I grew up and had the esteemed honor of meeting her. And wasn’t that a surprise. Here was this petite, almost delicate lady who was the personification of grace and goodness. And I thanked her then. I said, “Thank you,” for myself and for every colored girl, every colored boy, who didn’t have heroes who were celebrated.

I thanked her then.

And after our first meeting I realized that God uses good people to do great things. And I’m here today to say a final thank you, Sister Rosa, for being a great woman who used your life to serve, to serve us all. That day that you refused to give up your seat on the bus, you, Sister Rosa, changed the trajectory of my life and the lives of so many other people in the world. I would not be standing here today nor standing where I stand every day had she not chosen to sit down. I know that. I know that. I know that. I know that, and I honor that. Had she not chosen to say we shall not — we shall not be moved.

So I thank you again, Sister Rosa, for not only confronting the one white man who[se] seat you took, not only confronting the bus driver, not only for confronting the law, but for confronting history, a history that for 400 years said that you were not even worthy of a glance, certainly no consideration. I thank you for not moving.

And in that moment when you resolved to stay in that seat, you reclaimed your humanity and you gave us all back a piece of our own. I thank you for that. I thank you for acting without concern. I often thought about what that took, knowing the climate of the times and what could have happened to you, what it took to stay seated. You acted without concern for yourself and made life better for us all. We shall not be moved.

I marvel at your will.

I celebrate your strength to this day.

And I am forever grateful, Sister Rosa, for your courage, your conviction.

I owe you — to succeed.

I will not be moved.”

D. Mona Simpson’s Eulogy for Steve Jobs

Mona Simpson’s eulogy for her brother, Steve Jobs, paid tribute to the life of one of the greatest innovators of our time. Her touching speech included personal stories and happy memories that captured his character and spirit:

“I grew up as an only child, with a single mother. Because we were poor and because I knew my father had emigrated from Syria, I imagined he looked like Omar Sharif. I hoped he would be rich and kind and would come into our lives (and our not yet furnished apartment) and help us. Later, after I’d met my father, I tried to believe he’d changed his number and left no forwarding address because he was an idealistic revolutionary, plotting a new world for the Arab people.

Even as a feminist, my whole life I’d been waiting for a man to love, who could love me. For decades, I’d thought that man would be my father. When I was 25, I met that man and he was my brother.

By then, I lived in New York, where I was trying to write my first novel. I had a job at a small magazine in an office the size of a closet, with three other aspiring writers. When one day a lawyer called me — me, the middle-class girl from California who hassled the boss to buy us health insurance — and said his client was rich and famous and was my long-lost brother, the young editors went wild. This was 1985 and we worked at a cutting-edge literary magazine, but I’d fallen into the plot of a Dickens novel and really, we all loved those best. The lawyer refused to tell me my brother’s name and my colleagues started a betting pool. The leading candidate: John Travolta. I secretly hoped for a literary descendant of Henry James — someone more talented than I, someone brilliant without even trying.

When I met Steve, he was a guy my age in jeans, Arab- or Jewish-looking and handsomer than Omar Sharif.

We took a long walk — something, it happened, that we both liked to do. I don’t remember much of what we said that first day, only that he felt like someone I’d pick to be a friend. He explained that he worked in computers.

I didn’t know much about computers. I still worked on a manual Olivetti typewriter.

I told Steve I’d recently considered my first purchase of a computer: something called the Cromemco.

Steve told me it was a good thing I’d waited. He said he was making something that was going to be insanely beautiful.

I want to tell you a few things I learned from Steve, during three distinct periods, over the 27 years I knew him. They’re not periods of years, but of states of being. His full life. His illness. His dying.

Steve worked at what he loved. He worked really hard. Every day.

That’s incredibly simple, but true.

He was the opposite of absent-minded.

He was never embarrassed about working hard, even if the results were failures. If someone as smart as Steve wasn’t ashamed to admit trying, maybe I didn’t have to be.

When he got kicked out of Apple, things were painful. He told me about a dinner at which 500 Silicon Valley leaders met the then-sitting president. Steve hadn’t been invited.

He was hurt but he still went to work at Next. Every single day.

Novelty was not Steve’s highest value. Beauty was.

For an innovator, Steve was remarkably loyal. If he loved a shirt, he’d order 10 or 100 of them. In the Palo Alto house, there are probably enough black cotton turtlenecks for everyone in this church.

He didn’t favor trends or gimmicks. He liked people his own age.

His philosophy of aesthetics reminds me of a quote that went something like this: “Fashion is what seems beautiful now but looks ugly later; art can be ugly at first but it becomes beautiful later.”

Steve always aspired to make beautiful later.

He was willing to be misunderstood.

Uninvited to the ball, he drove the third or fourth iteration of his same black sports car to Next, where he and his team were quietly inventing the platform on which Tim Berners-Lee would write the program for the World Wide Web.

Steve was like a girl in the amount of time he spent talking about love. Love was his supreme virtue, his god of gods. He tracked and worried about the romantic lives of the people working with him.

Whenever he saw a man he thought a woman might find dashing, he called out, “Hey are you single? Do you wanna come to dinner with my sister?”

I remember when he phoned the day he met Laurene. “There’s this beautiful woman and she’s really smart and she has this dog and I’m going to marry her.”

When Reed was born, he began gushing and never stopped. He was a physical dad, with each of his children. He fretted over Lisa’s boyfriends and Erin’s travel and skirt lengths and Eve’s safety around the horses she adored.

None of us who attended Reed’s graduation party will ever forget the scene of Reed and Steve slow dancing.

His abiding love for Laurene sustained him. He believed that love happened all the time, everywhere. In that most important way, Steve was never ironic, never cynical, never pessimistic. I try to learn from that, still.

Steve had been successful at a young age, and he felt that had isolated him. Most of the choices he made from the time I knew him were designed to dissolve the walls around him. A middle-class boy from Los Altos, he fell in love with a middle-class girl from New Jersey. It was important to both of them to raise Lisa, Reed, Erin and Eve as grounded, normal children. Their house didn’t intimidate with art or polish; in fact, for many of the first years I knew Steve and Lo together, dinner was served on the grass, and sometimes consisted of just one vegetable. Lots of that one vegetable. But one. Broccoli. In season. Simply prepared. With just the right, recently snipped, herb.

Even as a young millionaire, Steve always picked me up at the airport. He’d be standing there in his jeans.

When a family member called him at work, his secretary Linetta answered, “Your dad’s in a meeting. Would you like me to interrupt him?”

When Reed insisted on dressing up as a witch every Halloween, Steve, Laurene, Erin and Eve all went wiccan.

They once embarked on a kitchen remodel; it took years. They cooked on a hotplate in the garage. The Pixar building, under construction during the same period, finished in half the time. And that was it for the Palo Alto house. The bathrooms stayed old. But — and this was a crucial distinction — it had been a great house to start with; Steve saw to that.

This is not to say that he didn’t enjoy his success: he enjoyed his success a lot, just minus a few zeros. He told me how much he loved going to the Palo Alto bike store and gleefully realizing he could afford to buy the best bike there.

And he did.

Steve was humble. Steve liked to keep learning.

Once, he told me if he’d grown up differently, he might have become a mathematician. He spoke reverently about colleges and loved walking around the Stanford campus. In the last year of his life, he studied a book of paintings by Mark Rothko, an artist he hadn’t known about before, thinking of what could inspire people on the walls of a future Apple campus.

Steve cultivated whimsy. What other C.E.O. knows the history of English and Chinese tea roses and has a favorite David Austin rose?

He had surprises tucked in all his pockets. I’ll venture that Laurene will discover treats — songs he loved, a poem he cut out and put in a drawer — even after 20 years of an exceptionally close marriage. I spoke to him every other day or so, but when I opened The New York Times and saw a feature on the company’s patents, I was still surprised and delighted to see a sketch for a perfect staircase.

With his four children, with his wife, with all of us, Steve had a lot of fun.

He treasured happiness.

Then, Steve became ill and we watched his life compress into a smaller circle. Once, he’d loved walking through Paris. He’d discovered a small handmade soba shop in Kyoto. He downhill skied gracefully. He cross-country skied clumsily. No more.

Eventually, even ordinary pleasures, like a good peach, no longer appealed to him.

Yet, what amazed me, and what I learned from his illness, was how much was still left after so much had been taken away.

I remember my brother learning to walk again, with a chair. After his liver transplant, once a day he would get up on legs that seemed too thin to bear him, arms pitched to the chair back. He’d push that chair down the Memphis hospital corridor towards the nursing station and then he’d sit down on the chair, rest, turn around and walk back again. He counted his steps and, each day, pressed a little farther.

Laurene got down on her knees and looked into his eyes.

“You can do this, Steve,” she said. His eyes widened. His lips pressed into each other.

He tried. He always, always tried, and always with love at the core of that effort. He was an intensely emotional man.

I realized during that terrifying time that Steve was not enduring the pain for himself. He set destinations: his son Reed’s graduation from high school, his daughter Erin’s trip to Kyoto, the launching of a boat he was building on which he planned to take his family around the world and where he hoped he and Laurene would someday retire.

Even ill, his taste, his discrimination and his judgment held. He went through 67 nurses before finding kindred spirits and then he completely trusted the three who stayed with him to the end. Tracy. Arturo. Elham.

One time when Steve had contracted a tenacious pneumonia his doctor forbid everything — even ice. We were in a standard I.C.U. unit. Steve, who generally disliked cutting in line or dropping his own name, confessed that this once, he’d like to be treated a little specially.

I told him: Steve, this is special treatment.

He leaned over to me, and said: “I want it to be a little more special.”

Intubated, when he couldn’t talk, he asked for a notepad. He sketched devices to hold an iPad in a hospital bed. He designed new fluid monitors and x-ray equipment. He redrew that not-quite-special-enough hospital unit. And every time his wife walked into the room, I watched his smile remake itself on his face.

For the really big, big things, you have to trust me, he wrote on his sketchpad. He looked up. You have to.

By that, he meant that we should disobey the doctors and give him a piece of ice.

None of us knows for certain how long we’ll be here. On Steve’s better days, even in the last year, he embarked upon projects and elicited promises from his friends at Apple to finish them. Some boat builders in the Netherlands have a gorgeous stainless steel hull ready to be covered with the finishing wood. His three daughters remain unmarried, his two youngest still girls, and he’d wanted to walk them down the aisle as he’d walked me the day of my wedding.

We all — in the end — die in medias res. In the middle of a story. Of many stories.

I suppose it’s not quite accurate to call the death of someone who lived with cancer for years unexpected, but Steve’s death was unexpected for us.

What I learned from my brother’s death was that character is essential: What he was, was how he died.

Tuesday morning, he called me to ask me to hurry up to Palo Alto. His tone was affectionate, dear, loving, but like someone whose luggage was already strapped onto the vehicle, who was already on the beginning of his journey, even as he was sorry, truly deeply sorry, to be leaving us.

He started his farewell and I stopped him. I said, “Wait. I’m coming. I’m in a taxi to the airport. I’ll be there.”

“I’m telling you now because I’m afraid you won’t make it on time, honey.”

When I arrived, he and his Laurene were joking together like partners who’d lived and worked together every day of their lives. He looked into his children’s eyes as if he couldn’t unlock his gaze.

Until about 2 in the afternoon, his wife could rouse him, to talk to his friends from Apple.

Then, after awhile, it was clear that he would no longer wake to us.

His breathing changed. It became severe, deliberate, purposeful. I could feel him counting his steps again, pushing farther than before.

This is what I learned: he was working at this, too. Death didn’t happen to Steve, he achieved it.

He told me, when he was saying goodbye and telling me he was sorry, so sorry we wouldn’t be able to be old together as we’d always planned, that he was going to a better place.

Dr. Fischer gave him a 50/50 chance of making it through the night.

He made it through the night, Laurene next to him on the bed sometimes jerked up when there was a longer pause between his breaths. She and I looked at each other, then he would heave a deep breath and begin again.

This had to be done. Even now, he had a stern, still handsome profile, the profile of an absolutist, a romantic. His breath indicated an arduous journey, some steep path, altitude.

He seemed to be climbing.

But with that will, that work ethic, that strength, there was also sweet Steve’s capacity for wonderment, the artist’s belief in the ideal, the still more beautiful later.

Steve’s final words, hours earlier, were monosyllables, repeated three times.

Before embarking, he’d looked at his sister Patty, then for a long time at his children, then at his life’s partner, Laurene, and then over their shoulders past them.

Steve’s final words were:

OH WOW. OH WOW. OH WOW.”

E. Frank Oz’s Eulogy for Jim Henson

Frank Oz’s short eulogy for his close friend and creative partner, Jim Henson, demonstrated the special bond they shared. This heartfelt eulogy showcased Henson’s playful nature and the joy he brought to those around him:

“Jim and I were opposites in so many ways.

I think it worked mainly because of patience and understanding, that which we had together both personally and in performance. And in the creative partnership that I shared with him and others.

I knew, not all the time, but in the last fifteen years or so, that he was a very singular human being.

Looking here I think I only realise now how large a man this was.This man that I just worked with and played with, and had so much fun with.

And we did have fun, we had such great silly fun together. The best thing of all—the best thing—is when you watched Jim laugh until he cried. It usually happened when we were recording something, or performing with the gang … and we’d get so punch and silly at two in the morning. And Jim would … just get that high whine … andhe couldn’t speak, and the tears were rolling down, and he’d try to add to the joke and he just couldn’t do it, and it was the best thing to see because you knew he was always busy and always working under pressure. And thinking, it was such a purge and a release—it was wonderful, the best thing to see him do that.

I can’t tell you how much he supported me. I joined when I was 19, 27 years ago, and he’s given me the most amazing opportunities. And he’s taught me so much, just by being the person that he is. It’s very important to me. There’s so much to tell. Let me just zero in on one little thing.

About fifteen years ago, we were doing Saturday Night Live, the first year of Saturday Night Live, Jim and I and a few others of the gang were doing some puppets there. And it was before Christmas , and it was just prior to dress rehearsal and the other guys had gone away to have lunch or something, so Jim and I were hanging around the halls, and as I recall in the hallway Jim came up with a camera. And he said in his own quiet, enthusiastic way, he said, ‘Frank, I need to go in a dressing room with you, and um, see if you’d take off all of your clothes soI could take a picture of you naked?’

I said, ‘whoooa!’ I said, ‘what?’

He said ‘I really need to do this, I need to take some photos of you naked.’

We discussed this for a while.

I said, ‘okay, alright’.

So we went in the dressing room, and I took off all my clothes, buck naked. Locked the door of course.

And he told me how to pose.

He said, ‘put your hands over your genitals,’ which I was glad to do, ‘Bend over like this, and look into the camera in a state of shock,’ – which was not difficult at that time.

So I bent over and I looked, like that, and he took some photos of me naked. Okay, no problem. Um. I got dressed, we did the show.

It was Christmas time, he gave me a gift. The gift was about this large, I have it, and the gift, I’ll describe it to you, it’s difficult, it’s made of some of Bert’s toys. It was a wall hanging, sculpture kinda thing, about this big. And it was a head of Bert, and Bert’s arms are holding a ledge, and on the ledge are about a dozen little Berts, tiny Berts that you can buy in the store at that time, about an inch and a half high , and you could turn them in different direction, looking over there, looking over there, and you could turn them back to look at the Big Bert’s head while the Big Bert was looking down at the Little Berts. And on that ledge underneath the Berts, were faces, photographs that Jim had obviously taken of many of the workshop people who were responsible in the making of Bert, and certainly all of which were responsible in the making of The Muppets. And they were all looking up to camera, and their little faces were tiny , about that big, all along the top of the ledge.

On the edge of this wooden ledge, Jim had painted layers, these striations, which were I gathered like layers of Bert’s mind. Layers of Bert’s soul. By the way I do Bert to Jim’s Ernie. And within those layers, the striations, he’d painted textures, beautiful little textures.

And then, I noticed, Bert’s eyes, the large Bert, Bert’s eyes, the pupils were cut out.

And you look inside Bert’s brain, and there I am naked, looking like this.

I knew he had a good reason.

I say that, to share that with you … oh by the way, he titled that ‘Bert in Self Contemplation’. I share it with you because so much of Jim is in that gift. The detail that he loved so much – Persian rugs and trees and the like – the details in the layers, the textures in which he had so much fun. I’d just see him hunched over all gleeful, doing this.

I could just see him cutting all those photo out so he doesn’t cut the ears or the noses off of people, he pasted them on himself. And the generosity of time in order to do this when he was so busy.

The generosity of taking the time to do it.

And not only the giving of the gift, but the anticipation of giving. I can’t tell you so many times Jim would say to me, ‘Oh I can’t wait to give this gift to Janie, or Brian or David, or whoever. The anticipation of giving was so wonderful with Jim. And the complexity of that gift, Bert looking at himself, me inside, the little Berts looking at the people around, the complexity, inwardness of that. And the simplicity of the concept was also Jim. And the quality of the gift, and the craftsmanship, and it all speaks so much of Jim, that gift. And I think the love … I think that’s when I knew …he loved me and I loved him.”

F. Cher’s Eulogy for Sonny Bono

Cher shared a moving tribute to her former husband and creative partner, Sonny Bono, after his tragic car accident. Her emotional eulogy recounted their earliest memories together and highlighted their enduring love and friendship:

Please excuse my papers, but I’ve been writing this stupid eulogy for the last 48 hours. And, of course, I know that this would make Sonny really happy. It’s like Den said: “He got the last laugh.”

So because I’ve had to write some of it down doesn’t mean that I’m unprepared. It just means that I’m over prepared in that this is probably the most important thing I’ve ever done in my life. Don’t pay any attention [weeping]. This is probably going to happen from time to time. And I also know that he is some place loving this Also, I have to wear the glasses that I made so much fun of him. I called him Mr. Magoo. I said, “You know, you’ve got to get some better glasses. You know, I don’t care if you’re Republican or not, you’ve got to look cooler than this.” So now I have to wear the glasses that I make fun of him for saying. There are a couple of things — I want to tell some stories — but there are a couple of things I really want to get perfect for him. So I have to read.

Some people were under the misconception that Son was a short man, but he was heads and tails taller than anyone else. He could see above the tallest people. He had a vision of the future and just how he was going to build it. And his enthusiasm was so great that he just swept ever body along with him. Not that we knew where he was going, but we just wanted to be there (audience laughs). He was also successful at anything he ever tried. Not the first time he tried maybe, but he just kept going. If he really wanted something, he kept going until he achieved it. Once he told me that, when he was a teenager, he got his nose broken six times because he used to get into fights with guys that were much bigger than him. And he said that they would just be beating the crap out of him and would just be keep going back and going back and going back. I said, “Well, why?” And he said, “Because eventually I would just wear them down.” (audience laughs). And if you know him, we all got worn down.

Some people thought that Son wasn’t very bright, but he was smart enough to take an introverted 16-year-old girl and a scrappy little Italian guy with a bad voice and turn them into the most successful and beloved couple of this generation. And some people thought that Son wasn’t to be taken seriously because he allowed himself to be the butt of the jokes on the Sonny and Cher show. What people don’t realize is that he created Sonny and Cher. And he knew what was right for us, you know? He just always knew the right thing. And he wanted to make people laugh so much that he had the confidence to be the butt of the joke because he created the joke.

When I was 16-years-old, I met Sonny — Salvatore Philip Bono. And the first time I ever saw him, he walked in this room. And I had never seen anything like him before in my life. Because he was Sonny way before we were Sonny and Cher. He had this thing about him. He walked into this room, and I swear to God I saw him and like everybody else in this room was just washed away in this soft focus filter — kind of like when Maria saw Tony at the dance. And I looked at him, and he had like this weird hair-do between Caesar and Napoleon. As a matter of fact, one of the first things that he ever told me was that he was a descendent of Napoleon, and that his father had shortened the name of Bonaparte to Bono when he came to this country. But that he didn’t want to make too big a deal out of this. Now you have to realize, at this time, he was talking to a girl who thought that Mount Rushmore was a natural phenomenon. So we were definitely a marriage made in heaven.

I lied to him about how old I was. I’ve told this story, but somehow it always keeps coming back. I told him that I was 18, and of course I wasn’t. I was the most bizarre 16-year-old that you probably would come across. I had all kinds of phobias and all kinds of insecurities and all kinds of energies that just couldn’t be harnessed. Except Son saw something. And I didn’t have a place to stay and he said, “You know, you can come and live with me because I have twin beds and really I don’t find you attractive.” I didn’t really know how to take it, but I was really glad to have a place to stay.

And when people would call or come over and say, “Who’s that girl?” “Oh, that’s just Cher.” We spent this whole time together and I was just Cher. I was this kid and he kind of took care of me. I told my mom I was living with a stewardess. And every time that my mom would call, I always said, “Mom, call me before you come over.” Every time my mom would call, I’d grab all of Sonny’s clothes and run down the street and throw all his clothes into my girlfriend’s living room window. And I lost most of his clothes that year. One time he came into the house and he had his jockey shorts in his hand and he said, “Cher, you’ve just got to stop doing this. I found these on the street.”

So nothing happened with us romantically until my mom made me move out. When I was packing my things, we both just looked at each other and we started crying and I didn’t even know why. And then I just realized once I was there that I just missed him so much — I was so used to him being a part of my life. And I also had to tell him at that time that I wasn’t 18. That I was 17, but I was about to turn 18. And when we were crying — he actually cried too — I said, “Well, I’m not 17 about to turn 18. I’m 16 about to turn 17, but I can’t go through the rest of my life without you. So if my mother threatens to put you in jail, could you just do it anyway.” So my mother kept threatening him all that year. But then I turned 18 and everything was all right.

I want to close, but I wanted to tell Mary and Chesare and Chianna how proud I am of what he made himself after we were separated and his accomplishments. And I know that a person just doesn’t decide to become a Congressman in the middle of their life and then be one.

But it’s just so typical of Sonny to do something so crazy like that. And also it puts my mind at peace to know that in the end of his days that he had such a wonderful family life. And I know how much he loved Mary and Chesare and Chianna. And I know how much they loved him. And also I know how much he loved his friends. He was the greatest friend. If you’d seen our house for the last five days — Mary’s house for the last five days — we can’t get rid of everybody. Everybody’s just there, you know. And it’s the way you would have wanted it. He would have been in the middle cooking — not eating, just tasting. And making everybody else eat.

So the last thing I want to say is, when I was young, there was this section in the Reader’s Digest. It was called “The Most Unforgettable Character I’ve Ever Met.” And for me that person is Sonny Bono. And no matter how long I live or who I meet in my life, that person will always be Sonny for me.”

G. Personal Eulogy Example: A Daughter’s Tribute to Her Beloved Mother

In this poignant eulogy example, a daughter beautifully captures her mother’s essence, sharing fond memories and emphasizing the loving relationship they shared throughout her entire life:

“Distinguished friends and family,

I stand before you today with a heavy heart, a heart overflowing with sorrow and yet brimming with the sweetest memories. Memories of a woman who was not only my mother, but my confidante, my cheerleader, my friend, my very north star, guiding me through life. Today, we bid farewell to Donna, a woman who was many things to many people, but to me, she was simply Mom.

Mom was a woman who wore many hats and wore them all with grace and dignity. She was a teacher, a counselor, a nurse, a chauffeur, and the best homemade cookie maker in the universe. But beyond these roles, she was a story-teller, weaving tales that brought laughter, reflection, wisdom, and occasionally, a necessary reality check.

Mom had an infectious laugh, hearty and wholesome. She would laugh at her own jokes before she finished telling them. And we laughed with her, not necessarily because the joke was funny, but because her joy was so infectious that you couldn’t help but join in.

One of my fondest memories of Mom is our late-night talks, under a blanket of stars, with a cup of hot chocolate in our hands. On those chilly nights, the world around us would fade, and we would embark on wonderful journeys through her stories and memories. She had this magical ability to turn a mundane day into an epic adventure. She painted the world in such beautiful colors, and she gave me the lens to see it that way.

Mom was never one for grand gestures, but it was her subtle acts of kindness that spoke volumes. I remember one winter, our elderly neighbor Mrs. Henderson, who lived alone, fell sick. Without a second thought, Mom packed up a basket of homemade soup and bread, wrapped herself in a thick coat, and trudged through the snowy night to make sure Mrs. Henderson wasn’t alone. That was Mom – her heart as warm as the summer sun.

Mom taught me to live fiercely and love deeply. She loved us unconditionally, beyond any fault or mistake. When I faltered, she was there to lift me up. When I celebrated, she was there clapping the loudest. She was my constant, the unchanging love in an ever-changing world.

When I became a mother myself, it was Mom’s wisdom and patience that guided me. Every late-night phone call, every panicked question about a fever or a rash, Mom was there. And even in her final days, in her quiet, subtle way, she continued teaching. Her bravery, her grace, her unwavering love for us, served as the ultimate lesson of life.

Losing Mom feels like losing the sun. Our world feels a bit dimmer without her radiant light. But the beautiful thing about the sun is, even when it sets, it never truly leaves. It leaves behind a lingering glow, a beautiful promise of a new day. And so does Mom. She has left us, yes, but she leaves behind the glow of her love, the echo of her laughter, the memories of her stories, her values, her lessons, and the imprints of her kindness. She continues to live in each one of us.

So today, as we bid goodbye to Donna, to Mom, let us remember not with tears but with smiles. Let’s remember her hearty laughter, her magical stories, her selfless love, and her unwavering spirit. Let us celebrate her life, let us carry her in our hearts, and let her legacy live on through us.

To my beautiful Mom, you were and will always be my guiding star. Your light will never dim in my heart. I love you, and I miss you. Until we meet again.”

H. Personal Eulogy Example: A Father Remembered by His Son

This touching eulogy by a son for his father showcases the strength of their bond and the lessons he learned from his father’s life, making it an unforgettable tribute:

“Dear Family and Friends,

Today, we are gathered to honor and say our final goodbye to a man who has left an indelible mark on our lives, a man who is not just my father but my mentor, my hero, my best friend – Peter.

As I stand here, looking at each face, I see reflections of my father in each one of us, and I am reminded of the profound impact he has had on our lives. I am reminded of the values he stood for, the strength he embodied, and the love he spread.

My father was a man of few words, but when he spoke, his words held the weight of the world. His advice was always clear and straight from the heart, even when the truth was tough to hear. He didn’t sugarcoat life, he equipped us to deal with it.

Dad was the embodiment of resilience and tenacity. He worked tirelessly, juggling jobs, enduring long hours, all to ensure that our family never knew the hardships he did. But never once did he let the strains of life dull his humor or dampen his spirit. His laughter was our daily soundtrack, a reminder that joy could be found even amidst chaos.

Growing up, my father was my pillar of strength. He taught me that it’s okay to fall, but what matters is that we pick ourselves up and keep going. He showed this through his actions, living out his days with a determination that was nothing short of inspiring.

I remember one summer when he taught me to ride a bike. Every time I fell, scraped a knee, or felt like giving up, he would simply say, “Remember, son, strength isn’t about not falling; it’s about getting back up.” This life lesson has carried me through my darkest times, and every success I’ve had is a testament to his words.

He was a man of humble beginnings, but he took pride in the smallest achievements. He taught me that real success is not measured in wealth or accolades but in the love we give and receive and the lives we touch.

My father was not only a devoted dad but also a loving husband. The love he shared with my mom was the epitome of partnership and mutual respect. Theirs was a love story that endured the test of time, a love story that showed me the kind of love I aspire to have in my life.

As a grandfather, Dad was even more incredible. His eyes would light up every time he saw his grandchildren, and I could see the pride in his eyes as he watched them grow. They’ll remember him as the man who would tell the tallest tales and create the most fantastic worlds just to see them laugh.

The pain of losing him is profound, and the void his absence leaves feels impossible to fill. But in the silence, I hear his laughter, his words of encouragement, and I feel his love surrounding us.

Peter, my father, was truly a man of substance, and his legacy will live on through all of us. He lives in my heart as a beacon guiding me forward, his lessons my roadmap in life.

So today, we do not simply mourn the loss of a great man, we celebrate his life and cherish the time we had with him. Today, we honor my father by remembering him not with tears in our eyes, but love in our hearts and smiles on our faces. We remember his laughter, his wisdom, and most importantly, his unwavering love for us.

Dad, you have been my greatest inspiration. As I navigate life without you, I will hold onto the memories, the lessons, and most importantly, the love. You may not be here in person, but your spirit remains with us. Until we meet again. I love you, Dad.”

I. Personal Eulogy Example: Celebrating the Life of a Best Friend

In this heartfelt eulogy, a woman pays tribute to her best friend, sharing stories of their adventures together and the reason why their friendship was so special:

“Dear friends and family,

As I stand here today, my heart aches with a profound sadness, but it also swells with gratitude for the cherished memories and profound bond I shared with my best friend, Daniella. A friend like Daniella comes along once in a lifetime – if you’re lucky. Today, as we say our final goodbyes, I want to share the story of our friendship, the story of Daniella, the best friend a girl could ever have.

From the day Daniella and I met in the second grade, we were inseparable. It was as if we had known each other for years. We shared an unspoken bond, a bond that stood the test of time and distance. We shared secrets, dreams, heartbreaks, and milestones. Our friendship was not just a part of my life; it was a part of me.

Daniella was more than just a friend; she was an adventurer. She had this unparalleled zest for life that was infectious. I remember our summer road trips, the radio blasting our favorite songs, as we sang at the top of our lungs. Those were the moments when we felt invincible, when we believed that the world was ours to conquer. Daniella lived each moment as if it were her last, and she taught me to do the same.

She had this remarkable ability to turn ordinary days into extraordinary ones. Be it a picnic in the park or a movie night at home, with Daniella, there was never a dull moment. Her laughter was contagious, her spirit was magnetic, and her presence was comforting. She made life a little more vibrant, a little more colorful.

But what made Daniella exceptional was her heart – kind, generous, and unwaveringly loyal. She had a way of making you feel seen, heard, and valued. She stood by me during my darkest days, her strength becoming my lifeline. Her compassion knew no bounds; she loved fiercely and was unafraid to show it.

In Daniella, I found a confidante, a shoulder to lean on, a source of endless laughter, and a beacon of true friendship. I am who I am today because of her. Her love, her laughter, her resilience, her spirit have shaped me. Our friendship was a dance of joy, laughter, tears, disagreements, reconciliations, and endless memories – a dance that I will forever cherish.

Losing Daniella feels like losing a piece of my heart, a piece of my soul. But I take solace in knowing that she lives on in every life she touched, in every smile she elicited, in every heart she loved.

As we say goodbye to Daniella today, let us not dwell on the sadness of her loss, but instead, let us celebrate her life, her spirit, her friendship. Let’s remember the joy she brought into our lives, the strength she gave us, and the unconditional love she showed us.

Daniella, my dearest friend, you were the sister I found in this chaotic world. You were my laughter, my solace, my rock. You may be gone from our sight, but never from our hearts. Your spirit lives on in the love and friendship we shared. Until we meet again, my friend, I will cherish our memories and carry you in my heart. I love you, Daniella.”

J. Personal Eulogy Example: A True Friend Honored by a Close Friend

This moving eulogy for a true friend emphasizes the importance of spending time with loved ones and cherishing the happy memories that form the foundation of our lives:

“Ladies and Gentlemen,

As I stand before you today, my heart aches with a sense of loss that words fail to capture. Today, we say farewell to Maria, a true friend, an unforgettable soul, a beacon of light in every life she touched.

Maria was not just a friend to me; she was a part of my soul, a kindred spirit. She was the friend who you could call at any hour, knowing she’d pick up. The friend who knew what you were thinking with just a glance. The friend who always knew the right thing to say. In this world of fleeting connections, our friendship was a rock, a steady beacon in the storm.

Maria had an uncanny ability to see the silver lining in every situation. When life was tough, she taught me to dance in the rain instead of waiting for the storm to pass. And it was not just a metaphor to her, it was literally her way of life. I recall one day when we were caught in a sudden downpour. Instead of running for cover, Maria twirled in the rain, her laughter echoing through the street, her joy infectious. That’s who she was – a ray of sunshine, even on the rainiest days.

She believed in making the most of every moment. She once told me, “Time is the one thing we can’t get back, so we must spend it wisely.” And spend it wisely she did. Whether it was planning a spontaneous road trip, organizing a surprise birthday party, or simply spending the afternoon watching reruns of our favorite shows, Maria was always present, always engaged. She taught me that it’s not about how much time we have, but how we choose to spend it.

Maria had a heart as vast as the ocean. She loved deeply and unconditionally. It wasn’t just her words but her actions that made you feel loved and cherished. She made every person she met feel special, feel seen. And in return, she was loved by everyone who had the fortune of knowing her.

In Maria, I found an unwavering support system, a cheerleader, a confidante. She stood by me during the ups and downs, during victories and defeats. Her friendship was a gift, one that I will forever cherish.

The void left by Maria’s absence is immeasurable. But as I stand here today, I am comforted by the beautiful memories we created, memories that are now my cherished treasures. Her laughter still rings in my ears, her words of wisdom echo in my heart, and her love continues to envelop me.

As we bid goodbye to Maria today, let us celebrate her spirit, her life, and her legacy. Let’s honor her by living life just as she did – with joy, with love, and with a heart full of compassion.

Maria, my dear friend, you have left an indelible mark on my life. Your spirit will forever be a part of me. I will carry you in my heart until the day we meet again. I love you, Maria, and I am grateful for every moment we shared. Goodbye, my dear friend.”